CRAP-TAKING IS A DISORDER.........

I have come to the conclusion that some people..... scratch that...some girls..... have a veeeeeeeerrrrrrrrrrrrry high "CRAP-TAKING LEVEL"...like they just take too much B.S from people...like 4reals.....it saddens me.....

my mother taught me not to accept what i am not comfortable with, not to be tolerated but be celebrated........

bottom line...if a guy gives u toooooo much crap and acts like he is doing u a favour by being with u and that if he ups and leaves then its ur loss and that he can do anything (whether or not u are comfortable with whatever he is doing)....then omo.....it is time to depart that relationship biko...like...it is time to just go and not look back...... as in eh... bakwa oso (run)

some stories i have heard and witnessed first-hand..... just makes me wanna tell the girl.... "have u lost ur CAT DAMN MIND?????????"....like 4reals yo...some gurl are just experts in crap-taking.........

call me intolerant....call me quick to judge...whatever.....but when a guy treats u like crap...and gives u crap one too many times.....and u keep staying while he keeps acting a fool....then YOU NEED HELP.....DIVINE HELP....INFACT HEAVENLY HELP!!! OGINI KWANU????

it might seem like am talking out of the blue...but somethings i have seen and been hearing recently from some girls make me wonder......and ask ... "is it that you feel u cant do better?is that why you tolerate everything??".......

i mean like how can a guy who treated u badly during a relationship and caused u sadness and all....... and then u break up with him...u call him and tell him u dont feel the relationship no more (in a very nice way),.....and the ODE has the effontry to call u and leave offensive messages threatning to f*** u up in this town and make sure u regret wat u did and says mean and insulting things to you...as if being with him was an achievement for you.....bla bla bla.....this guy is probably mid-twentyish thereabout (so despite the childish messages ..it is clear that dude is not a child)....and den in a few days calls u and says one or two sweet words and apologies...and everything goes back to normal..like they were before..just like dat!!!! like..... wth???

the above is one of many examples of crap-taking in full display that i have witnessed

I'm not the kind of girl to force my friends to do stuff...... so i usually say what i have to say..and tell u.. "do what u gotta do...kno wat u can accept...and wat u cant...."...i never really say "oh leave that dude..he's not good for u".... because ssome friends will misinterpret u..... but i really wish i could say somethings to some friends.....like 4real...not all guys are worth keeping at all!! kai!!

I am single.....and one of the reasons why is because i am not ready to accept crap from people...and the type of guys that approach me sometimes seem like crap-producing guys....... and until i find reasonable.......non crap-producing guys..i shall continue to remain single...... some things are just too crappy for me to accept biko.....

why is there so much rage and irritation in this post? because I am currently irritated at the moment about the way some girls handle stuff......... again..like my Mum says....."if u dont like something.....den change it"........ dont let a guy treat u like dat and just sit down there like a doll baby..taking evry piece of crap.......simple and short!!!


having three brothers who are older than me welllllll enough gives me enough to measure my future man up to..... I have enough male figures in my life.....probably more than i have female figures..... so if a guy wants to come up to me today ...he better come correct and in check as well as level headed...... my father and my brothers did not fail to show me adequate care, love, etc.....so u better continue from where they stopped...if my family members cant treat me badly...how much more a boyfriend/patner/companion?

THAT IS THE REASON WHY I DONT ACCEPT CRAP......

A friend told me...."u wont understand because u dont have a boyfriend........love can make u do things that you wouldnt do otherwise"

i refuse to believe that........ thats why they say..love with ur heart and ur head..because sometimes the heart is bound to misbehave and needs the head to put it in check sometimes.....

ONE THING I KNOW......... I CANNOT ALLOW ANYONE MAKE ME ACCEPT WHAT I DON'T WANT TO ACCEPT...IF U LIKE......BAKWA OKU (catch fire)... NKA ANWA BASALU GI(that one concern you)

some girls need to fully comprehend this

from a loving sister, homegurl and non-crap taking person
yours truly,
iphy